Jesus also, that he might sanctify the people with his own blood, suffered outside the gate. Therefore, let us go forth to him outside the camp, bearing his reproach. For we have no continuing city here, but we seek one to come.
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“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what is there in common between
righteousness and lawlessness? What fellowship has light with darkness?”
“She is free to marry whom she will, only in the Lord.”
For a child of God to marry an unbeliever is to be “unequally yoked”, and everyone who knows the truth knows that God forbids His children to do so. Even under the law, it was sin for someone in covenant with God to marry someone who was not in covenant with God (Ex. 34:14—16). But the Israelites transgressed God’s commandments often, and their ungodly marriages played a crucial role in the corruption of Israel’s faith and the downfall of Israel as a nation (Ezra 9).
God’s gift of liberty for believers to marry whomever they choose to marry within the kingdom of God carries just as much authority as does God’s commandment against “unequally yoked” marriages. When Paul said that a believer is free to marry whom he will, as long as he marries another believer, Paul was declaring an unalterable law in God’s kingdom. And if God’s will is to grant to His children a liberty of choice in marriage, then He will stand behind whatever choice they make. Their liberty of choice in marriage is a holy gift from God, and no man has the right or the power to countermand it.
Some years ago, a brother and sister whom I knew chose to marry. The brother’s personality was withdrawn and awkward, and the sister’s personality was outgoing and optimistic. Some believers, and even some worldly relatives of that sister warned her that she was making a poor choice of mates, but her mind was made up. They even came to me, asking me to intervene, but I insisted on her liberty to choose whom she would. They eventually married, and within two months, the sister came to me, wanting some way out of the marriage, but I could not agree to it. She had exercised her right under God’s law to choose whom she would as a mate, and now, she was bound by the same law of God to be the best wife she could be. God stood with her in her liberty to choose, and He stood with her husband when she saw what a poor choice she had made. To this day, I am sure, there are those who hold me responsible, in part, for the awful suffering that sister went through before that foolish man abandoned her and the Lord, but God’s law had made her free to choose, and I had no authority from God to take that liberty from her.
Listen to me, young people. When you come to the age of marriage, God will stand behind your choice of a mate as much as He stood behind His prophets. At the same time, remember that once that choice is made, God will stand behind that choice, even if you would change your mind. Choose wisely. Take counsel, and listen to those who love you and who have the mind of Christ. God will set His seal on the marriage you choose to make, and it is a seal which no man, including yourself, can break.